Hubs and I have made the decision (over and over really) that having a homebirth is right for us. So what is the problem? Mainly money (typical). Due to the fact that a homebirth in our circumstance will cost us more out of pocket than a hospital birth, we are faced with the fact that we have to make a huge sacrifice to give birth at home. We made the decision that a homebirth is what we wanted and for awhile wrestled back and forth between knowing our financial situation versus knowing what is right for our family. So round and round we would go. My family does not think that we should pursue a homebirth on the fact that it is a HUGE financial sacrifice that we will have to make, when we need to buy a van for the three car seats (or something else). We know our financial situation, better than anyone else. The closer it gets to the time that baby #3 will arrive the more pressure I get from my family that we are making the wrong decision. Having said that, I know that they will support me (more or less) with our decision regardless. I guess I find myself frustrated, as I often do. I know in my heart that Hubs and I are making the right decision for us and our family. I wish that others were willing and able to see that as well. We have weighed the options, we have prayed, we have talked endless hours with one another, and we know that a homebirth is the right choice for us.
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You know what?.. that's all you need... to know in your heart that it is the right choice for you and your family. Yes, it is a financial burden, but the rewards are endless. I have had 3 home births... one with a breech baby... and I wouldn't have changed a thing even knowing how it all now happened. Yes, it hurt... it's labor... yes, you will have to be careful with your money for a while to make up for the cost.. but if you have prayed over it and talked with hubby about it and it feels like the right thing to do, you have to just try your best not to listen to the naysayers... even if it means not inviting them to the birth, too. You don't need that kind of energy while in labor.
Anyway, all that to say, if it feels right, then it is! Try not to worry about what others think you should do!
I know what you mean about the financial hardship but if you know it's right then it's the right thing to do. You only give birth to this baby once; follow your heart.
With our first, we had to pay a lot more out of pocket than we would have had to with a hospital birth...but we were SO glad we did!
Now we are part of Samaritan Ministries instead of our old insurance, and they actually cover homebirth 100% (if you do a hospital birth you have to pay the $300 co-pay.)
You couldn't use it for this baby, probably, because it'd be a "pre-existing condition" but if you plan on having more babies you might want to look into it! ;-)
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