It seems as of late I have had a number of people passing judgment on me and my family. It is nothing to do with this blog or any of that sort of thing (although I know of other bloggers who have had this happen, but that is another post entirely). Now, I know that we all make and pass judgments on each other, I can be realistic about that. What I do have a problem with is when someone I do not know, I have had no interaction with until that very moment and they make a judgment based off of the one thing though know about me.
I, my family and I that is, are on public assistance at this current time. Why you ask? My husband just graduated from college in May, the economy is rough, he does not have a job in his career field, he is working, but does not make enough for our family. Now, having said that. We made the decision to have children when we did, when he was in college. We felt that this was the right decision for us. Why you ask? None of your business :) Actually, I am comfortable saying that we decided to have children because of our faith. We prayed about children and we know what is right for our family. We also never intended to be out of work, but guess what, crap happens. The economy changes, people lose jobs, but families still have to eat and life still goes on. I can say without a shadow of doubt that we will not always be on public assistance, this is a temporary deal for us.
Now, you ask, why the soap box? On more than one occasion in the past week, when asked what type of insurance I have, the health care provider (be it a nurse, doctor, or front desk personal) upon hearing that I am on medicaid have been completely and utterly rude. I have had people assume the worst, that I am just using the system. I have had people completely disregard what I am saying because they assume that I am uneducated. Now, I am not uneducated, nor did I grow up in poverty. However, so what if I had! That does not mean that they deserve to pass that judgment on me and my family. My husband is a hard worker, as many people who are on medicaid and food stamps are. We have decided, as a family, that it is senseless for me to return to work because of the cost of daycare. We are doing the best that we can do for our family. I know (trust me, I KNOW) that there are people who do use and abuse the system. It is sad to me that we cannot simply love our neighbor. Fine, don't love me, at least keep your darn mouth shut and put on a happy face. :)